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Confidentiality
SAA Scotland is an anonymous group. However, anonymity does not apply if you tell us you are involved in sexual violence or in any sexual activity involving minors. We will report any instances to the police.

Staying sober

It's often said that recovery from sex addiction is simple but not easy. Defining your sobriety is a great step, as are going to meetings and starting to work the twelve steps. But we have often found ourselves "triggered" to act out, to stray back to inner circle behaviours.

As addicts, we need to learn to act when we feel ourselves entering the "bubble" - the state of insanity where we no longer care about the consequences or recovery. Once in the "bubble", we can't remove ourselves. But we can prevent ourselves entering it if we take action early enough.

What if you get the urge to "act out"?

  1. Pick up the phone - call your sponsor or others in the fellowship. Don't think - just do it, dial the numbers and receive support.
  2. Fast forward - think the fantasy through to the pain and consequences at the end.
  3. Ask your higher power for help and wait for the answer.
  4. Review your boundaries - revisit the three circles
  5. Read SAA literature

And if we do slip, we can learn from it:

What if you slip?

  1. Progress not perfection - you won't change habits formed years ago overnight, review your progress so far.
  2. Break the cycle - make a connection with the program by calling someone, going to a meeting, reading your recovery plan etc. Slips occur when we isolate ourselves from the programme.
  3. Break the secret - talk it over with your sponsor or another group member to break the power of the addictive pull. Moderate the shame with the acceptance from someone who has been there too.
  4. Learn from it - look carefully at what happened prior to the slip and learn more about yourself and your recovery
  5. Make amends - do service for SAA by sponsoring someone, help with the running of the group etc - all these increase your contact with the programme.

 

 

 

     
 

The Scotland Intergroup of SAA is an autonomous registered fellowship composed of registered groups of recovering sex addicts who follow the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Sex Addicts Anonymous®(SAA). The views expressed on this website are those of Scotland Intergroup and do not necessarily represent those of Sex Addicts Anonymous as a whole. The official website of Sex Addicts Anonymous® (http://www.saa-recovery.org) is overseen by the ISO of SAA, Inc., through its Board of Trustees who are elected by delegates who represent its member groups.

© SAA Scotland 2006